Spray paint marks the spot

 Story in The Times

Staff at Mortonhall crematorium, Edinburgh, have since 1967  been telling families that no ashes can be retrieved from the cremation of babies who die at or around the time of birth. They have been secretly burying the ashes in a mass grave. We covered this here

In response to public outrage, the crematorium is now indicating where the babies’ ashes are buried. The manner in which they have done so has done nothing to slake the anger and grief of those parents who were lied to. 

Holes, moles and other graveyard musings

Posted by Kitty

ED’S NOTE: Kitty is a relatively new commenter on the blog. She emailed the following to us, and we are pleased to post it. Come one, come all, we say. 

I’m not that keen on cats and my name’s not really Kitty. It’s a dog-eat-dog world out there and being anonymous seems the sensible option.

But I am interested in funerals – good or otherwise.

I was walking through a graveyard with my husband (I’ll call him Tom – I’ve always liked that name) when we both noticed there were a lot of flower holders. Well, that’s what I thought they were, even though not a single one contained any flowers.

Tom asked, ‘What are those holes for?’

I replied, ‘It’s in case someone is buried alive. They can shout through the holes and be rescued.’

He thought about this for a while and said, ‘They used to have bells didn’t they? But holes are much better because they can breathe through those.’

I chose a grave at random and took a photo. I thought no more about it until a few weeks later when I transferred some photos from my mobile phone to my laptop. The headstone was dedicated to a couple with the wonderful name of ‘Hole’. What are the chances?

Last weekend, on a walk through a different graveyard, I noticed a mole hill on one of the graves.

Tom asked, ‘What’s that?’

I replied, ‘They forgot the shouting/breathing holes on that one and the poor person was trying to escape.’

Death sentence passed on graveyard dunny

You loved Millaa Millaa’s coffin-shaped dunny, remember

Well, it’s going to be done in. 

Built by the Chamber of Commerce on council-owned land, it has been condemned on the trivial grounds that it lacks planning permission and falls foul of any number of building and plumbing regs. 

90 per cent of Millaa Millaa’s population petitioned in favour of the facility, which offers relief to the bereaved, but their pleas have left the bureaucrats unmoved. 

Story.

End of Life Planning Seminar

We are pleased to advertise this upcoming seminar held by Colin Moore, a good friend of the GFG:

End of Life Planning Seminar 
This seminar shows you how to create different funeral ceremonies through powerpoint and exercises. You will learn about the many funeral choices available and how to discuss these options with families. We also give you the information you need to be able to advise people on how to prepare detailed written instructions about every aspect of a death, including the funeral, all practical arrangements and family matters. Time is spent during the day discussing how to craft a letter which is read and often treasured as a lasting legacy by children, grandchildren and beyond.  The aim of the course is to be able to help people prepare their final arrangements in advance, making it much easier for their families when the time comes to say goodbye. 

Course Details
To be held on Friday 18th January 2013 at The Bridgewater Hotel, 23 Barton Road, Worsley, Manchester M28 2PD between 10.0am and 4.0pm.  Cost per delegate including refreshments and handouts £45.00.

Contact Details

Colin Moore at The Funeral Consultancy, 100 Bull Head Street, Wigston, Leicester LE18 1PB.  Telephone:  0116 2813574 or email admin@thefuneralconsultancy.co.uk

Felt feels fab

Fans of Yuli Somme, who makes the beautiful Leafcocoons, crafts other lovely stuff from her felt offcuts. Nothing goes to waste in her workshop. 

Here at the GFG-Batesville Shard, when the temperatures drop, we swear by Yuli’s fabulous foot felts — insoles for our shoes. They are brilliantly comfy and cosy — there’s nothing like them. 

If you work from home with the heat off during the day, and/or if you spend periods of time in cold crematoria and cemeteries, they don’t half stop your toes from going numb. And they make your feet feel snug as can be. 

At £6 a pair, £15 for three, they’re really good value. Buy some and you will celebrate your good fortune until you curl said (toasty) toes up. 

Yuli says:

Keep your feet snug and warm inside your shoes or boots with these cosy foot felts.  You can choose small (up to size 5), medium (up to size 8) and large (up to size 12) and you cut them to size. Please email for sizes beyond 12.   Remember to compost the off-cuts!  They are also excellent for long distance walking.  A friend of mine did the whole of the South West Coastal footpath in them, and said that nothing else worked so well at preventing blisters.  Hooray for wool!

Check out Yuli’s tea cosies, tuffets, bags and hot water bottle covers. Great for Christmas presents.

 

A new natural burial ground in the Surrey Hills

Our congratulations to Simon Ferrar, a good friend of the GFG, on the opening (at last!) of his natural burial ground at Clandon Wood. 

We don’t think it was the official, ceremonial opening, which is set for the new year.  He’s invited us to come along. We’ll be buying a new hat for that. 

Wild grasses and flowers were sown across 25 acres in June and there will be flower trails through the woods.

“As a business it should look after itself. The meadow in winter will be grazed by sheep and goats so we don’t have to run a tractor over it,” he said. “We’ve also got a burgeoning wildlife population. We have had deer, a badger, foxes. The wetland has got ducks, geese and heron. There’s nothing for them to eat yet so they don’t stay but they know where the water is.”

As well as environmental responsibility, Mr Ferrar said more people are taking emotional responsibility for their own deaths.

Mr Ferrar came up with the idea for the business when he attended the natural burial of his aunt in November 2005 and found the experience comforting. Change of use planning permission was required to put a burial ground on the site. Mr Ferrar said there were no objections and more people were concerned the land would become a huge housing development. Instead the property, which is in the green belt in the Surrey Hills, will be protected as a nature reserve. A timber and glass pavilion is to be completed next year to be used for services.

Full story here.

Clandon Wood website here

Well done, Simon!

Baby ashes scandal hits Edinburgh

From 1967 until last year, when a new manager was appointed and instituted a cleanup, Mortonhall crematorium, Edinburgh, has been telling parents that children who die antenatally or neonatally do not yield ashes when they are cremated. For an untold period the crematorium has been burying their ashes secretly in cardboard boxes in an unmarked, mass grave in a field behind the crematorium. 

You can read the story in the Scotsman here.  

Helen Henderson, 43, from Sighthill, said: “My son Nathan died when he was just one day old in August 2004. We were told by the undertaker that we would receive his ashes, but when we went to collect them a lady at the crematorium told us we had been misinformed and that there was nothing for us to collect, that ‘you don’t get any ashes from a baby’.

One grieving mother said that when she questioned the policy she was told it had been a result of “laziness and a bad attitude”.

It looks like a very bad business. Crematoria generally are well aware of the emotional needs of bereaved parents and do all in their power to retrieve some ash, however tiny the amount. The scandal at Mortonhall may well cast into doubt practices at other crematoria. Nothing could be more unfair. This is a sector which is characterised by, on the whole, high standards. 

It is likely that, back in 1967, when cremators were hotter and, in operation, more turbulent, there were no ashes after the cremation of a baby. Mortonhall’s culpability in lying to bereaved parents would seem to date from the installation of newer equipment whenever that might have been. 

Even today, cremation of a foetus younger than 24 weeks does not yield any remains. 

When a foetus miscarries or there is a neonatal death in a hospital, the hospital normally takes responsibility for funeral arrangements and will ordinarily have a contract with a funeral director to carry out these arrangements. If there was an contracted funeral director in this case, his or her failure to hold the crematorium to account is unaccountable. 

 A widespread practice is to cremate babies first thing in the morning, before the cremator has reached its full operating temperature. The cooler the burn, the easier it will be to retrieve some ash. 

 South-West Middlesex crematorium has its own baby cremator, which does not burn as hot as an adult cremator. At the Garden of England crematorium babies are cremated on a special tray. 
The Mortonhall scandal will be no less shocking and saddening to seasoned members of the funeral industry, for whom the funerals of babies and children never lose their poignancy.
 Your thoughts would be very welcome. 

QSA wins the Guardian Charity Award

Quaker Social Action was today recognised for its work against funeral poverty. The charity, known as QSA, beat almost 1,000 other entries for the coveted Guardian Charity award, becoming one of five to win the annual prize. The honour is given for QSA’s work with bereaved families preventing them from paying over the odds for a funeral and so avoiding ending up deeper in debt and despair. 

QSA is a small charity that has been working in east London since 1867. It has created a series of innovative services including the rent guarantee scheme and a financial literacy programme. Its current projects range from life coaching for vulnerable people to working with east end estates to organise street parties so residents can meet their neighbours. 

QSA won the award for the achievement of its funeral care project. Down to Earth is a mentor-led project that supports people living on a low income, and often already struggling with debt, to arrange an affordable funeral for their dearly departed. 

When the loss of a loved one is made worse by the dread of paying to give them a good send off, the anxiety, grief and guilt is devastating. This project makes meaningful funerals affordable, enabling bereaved relatives to say goodbye without debt or regret. In just two years it has saved its clients over £100,000 in funeral expenses.