Fit for a mariner’s ashes

A delightful email arrives from Annie Leigh, who is Eco Urns. With it come some delicious photos of a bespoke ashes urn Annie has just made for a client. 

The client wanted an urn that could be ‘launched’ at sea. She wanted her husband’s ketch — and she wanted his favourite colour, blue. So Annie came up with the concept you see above — a globe of the earth as seen from space (lots of lovely blues), with the ketch on top. The idea is that the globe sinks… and the ketch takes its chances. 

As you may expect, there’s been some procrastinating in the matter of actually launching it. 

See Annie’s website here

No need

Suzie Howie was a showbiz publicist in Australia. She died a few days ago aged 63. Here are some extracts from her last message: 

I have had a terrific life and am so grateful for the fun, the excitement and the wonderful people who have been part of it.

Couldn’t have done it without the love of my creative husband, Paul Taylor, and the warmth and love of his family, who have given me so much affection and support – and that includes the first Mrs Taylor, Maggie Pinkney.

My clever and amusing doctors, Gaynor Simmons and Bob Millar, who have guided me through the last seven years of breast cancer and best of all shown me that death is just a part of life. I am so grateful to them, as it has meant that I have genuinely accepted this and taken joy from all my life.

Please note – that after 30 years of media calls, press conferences, before and after drinks and all those opening night parties — enough is enough. There will be NO funeral, and certainly no memorial. I am very happy to just float away when called.

Thank you everyone – and enjoy life. I have.

More here

Spectral sphere sheds factory terror

CCTV at SMP Large Format, Ashford, Kent, captured this terrifying spectral orb moseying around one of the offices. It has left the workforce shaking.

“The boys in the factory feel there is something there or watching them. You know when you get the feeling you are not alone?

“We have not seen the orb or glow again since, but a couple of them have said they have noticed their tools being moved.

“One of them even got trapped after a really heavy piece of kit somehow moved to block a door, again when no one else was around.”

Full story in the Sun here

Introducing the solid wood cardboard coffin

Some fine copywriting here from CoffinWorld

This PRISCILLIAN Cardboard Casket is manufactured using ash wood. This casket’s excellent high shine design is available in brown. Apart from the double cover top that gives selections for witnessing, this casket is available in the colour of Brown. The handles are dipped in gold-like brass tint. An intensive carving can be seen on top of the lid, plus the facet. To which are cautiously hand-sculpted with care.

 Inside you can discover the inner lining which is made out from the softest velvet fabric shaded in a delicate white hue. It truly is great for a beautiful funeral. This premium quality hand-sculpted casket offers nothing but dignity to the person you once adored.

More on CoffinWorld here

Modern death ‘reverberates like a handclap in an empty auditorium.’

There’s a good death piece over at the New York Times that you might like. It’s by Bess Lovejoy, author of the about-to-be-published Rest in Pieces: The Curious Fates of Famous Corpses. Here are some taster extracts: 

Over the last century, as Europeans and North Americans began sequestering the dying and dead away from everyday life, our society has been pushing death to the margins … The result, as Michael Lesy wrote in his 1987 book “The Forbidden Zone,” is that when death does occur, “it reverberates like a handclap in an empty auditorium.”

The erasure of death also allows us to imagine that our mortal trivialities and anxieties are permanent, while a consistent awareness of death — for those who can stomach it — can help us live in the here and now, and teach us to treasure what we already have. In fact, a study by University of Missouri researchers released this spring found that contemplating mortality can encourage altruism and helpfulness, among other positive traits.

Though there’s no deserved namecheck in what follows for Jon Underwood, Ms Lovejoy observes:

“Death cafes,” in which people come together over tea and cake to discuss mortality, have begun in Britain and are spreading to the United States, alongside other death-themed conferences and festivals (yes, festivals). 

Whoops, Ms Lovejoy omits to namecheck, also, this festival and this festival. You begin to suspect that Britain is at the forefront of something here.  

Ms Lovejoy concludes: 

It’s never easy to confront mortality, but perhaps this year, while distributing the candy and admiring the costumes of the neighborhood kids, it’s worth returning to some of the origins of Halloween by sparing a thought for those who have gone before. As our ancestors knew, it’s possible that being reminded of their deaths will add meaning to our lives.

Find the complete article here

 

Thoughts of a funeral-goer

Peace, My Heart

Peace, my heart, let the time for the parting be sweet.
Let it not be a death but completeness.
Let love melt into memory and pain into songs.
Let the flight through the sky end in the folding of the wings over the nest.
Let the last touch of your hands be gentle like the flower of the night.
Stand still, O Beautiful End, for a moment, and say your last words in silence.
I bow to you and hold up my lamp to light you on your way.

Rabindranath Tagore, Bengali poet and philosopher (1861 – 1941)

ITV Exposure Responses FPL & NAFD

The following statement was read out after the Exposure programme 24.10.2012

‘Last month in ‘The British Way of Death’ Exposure went under cover in the funeral industry at Funeral Partners Limited revealing racism and disrespect of bodies and the bereaved.

 FPL who own the branches in Slough and Tooting, where we’d been filming, have apologised, five people have been sacked, one has resigned and a seventh is currently suspended.
The company says it’s investing in diversity training and will be improving facilities and equipment where needed.
They’ve also offered to reimburse fees paid by a widow who was shown being racially abused at her husband’s funeral.

The NAFD has said that “in the light of the Exposure programme it will begin a root and branch review of its code of practice.” ‘

 

Strange bedfellows?

The economic crisis in Greece has got so bad that football clubs are having to scour surviving businesses for sponsorship. Reuters reports that: 

Palaiopyrgos – many of whose players still attend school – have signed a deal with a funeral home.

“For us it was a matter of survival,” manager Lefteris Vassiliou told Greek radio.

Despite the macabre attire – black jerseys with the undertaker’s logo and a large white cross down the middle – Vassiliou said the players had taken it well, and it had even given them an advantage over their opponents.

Recounting a recent match, he said: “The goalkeeper kept crossing himself, our competitors lost every play. It seems they were too scared to come near us.”

Voukefalas is now sponsored by a brothel and the players now flaunt pink shorts and T-shirts emblazoned with her brothels’ logos, including “Villa Erotica”.

Reuters do not make it clear why readers should suppose there is equivalence between the two sponsors. 

Tattoo – A friend in death?

The Rise of the Maori Tribal Tattoo

By Ngahuia Te Awekotuku
University of Waikato, New Zealand

Body adornment – swirling curves of black on shoulders, thighs, lower back, arms, upper feet, rear calves – has become an opportunity for storytelling as well. Some symbols represent children born, targets reached, places visited, and increasingly, memories of special people who have passed away.

In August 2006, Te Arikinui Dame te Atairangikaahu, affectionately known as the Maori Queen, died after a long illness.

Her people were devastated. Many wanted to commemorate her in a special way, and 16 women chose to memorialise her by taking a traditional facial tattoo. I was humbled to be one of them. There are now more than 50 of us, mostly older and involved in the ceremonial life of our people. It is a fitting memento mori.

But moko, most of all, is about life. It is about beauty and glamour, and its appearance on the bodies of musicians such as Robbie Williams and Ben Harper is not unusual. Although it is often contentious, raising issues of cultural appropriation, and ignorant use of traditional art as fashion.
However we must also acknowledge that Maori artists are sharing this art – they are marking the foreign bodies.

The important reality remains – it is ours. It is about beauty, and desire, about identity and belonging. It is about us, the Maori people.

As one venerable elder stated, more than a century ago, “Taia o moko, hei hoa matenga mou” (Inscribe yourself, so you have a friend in death).

Because it is forever.

Read the whole article published on the BBC website September 21st 2012  here

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Dunnarunna

Special communiqué from the Guvnor of the GFG, Sir Basil Batesville-Casket KBE, CDM, RLSS (Bronze)

Blog Ed has up and hopped it to the coast for what he tells us is a well-deserved break. We’ll be the judge of that. There won’t be a job for him when he gets back. We need a better class of tone on this blog, less of the nitwit stuff, more gravit-whatever the word is. So we’re going to have a re-think, a clear-out, get rid of that tedious old Mollington woman while we’re at it. 

While we’re looking for a new broom things may be a little quiet.

We’re sorry for your loss.