Grief memoirs
There’s been some interesting discussion of grief over at the New York Times. Ruth Davis Konigsberg, the person who demolished the 5 stages of grief model (derived from Kubler Ross), has this to say: In the past decade, social scientists with unprecedented access to large groups of widows and widowers have learned that, as individual […]
La Santa Muerte
In Mexico there is a cult that is rapidly growing–the cult of Saint Death. This female grim reaper, considered a saint by followers but Satanic by the Catholic Church, is worshipped by people whose lives are filled with danger and/or violence–criminals, gang members, transvestites, sick people, drug addicts, and families living in rough neighborhoods. Eva […]
They want my reply. What should I say?
Good morning, I have been admiring your website and would like to enquire about the possibility of having Staysure Prepaid funeral plans listed on your website. Staysure.co.uk established in 2004, achieved 8th position in the recently published Sunday Times Fastrack 100 list. Staysure has teamed up with Dignity to offer the Guaranteed Funeral Plan to […]
Laughing it off
I’m not supposed to be here (see previous post) but I can’t resist abandoning packing my water wings for a moment in order to give vent to what may or may not be justified crossness. Funerals have, by many people who ought to know better, been subjected to a reductio ad absurdum: three songs and […]
Blog off
This blog is taking a break. It needs good sea air, best bitter beer, fresh seafood, long walks and things other than death to think about. It needs regenerating. Do come back. Posting shortly will be Kathryn Edwards on Malidoma Some and the role and importance of ritual in funerals. Kathryn has journeyed to Burkina […]
Bang to rights?
I don’t know if it’s the anarch in me or the libertarian, but I am inclined to be very relaxed about the absence of any regulatory structure for funeral directors. Almost everything you can think of is governed by regs designed to reassure and protect consumers. An unregulated funeral industry looks anomalous. Catteries are regulated. […]
Eulogy magazine – the reason why
Dear Charles, Please accept my sincere apologies for the late payment of your invoice. Eulogy has recently undergone a major restructuring after the departures of our features editor and three non-productive directors. I became a director after their departures and have looked to sort out the mess they left me with. In addition, a close […]
To accept what cannot be helped
A very good account here by Ann Hulbert of her mother’s response to being told she had an incurable cancer: Two years ago this coming June my mother—“an 80-year-old in a 60-year-old’s body,” the pulmonologist told her—was ambushed by a diagnosis of Stage IV adenocarcinoma of the lungs … In the windowless examining room at […]
Cheap trills
A roundup of the week in tweets. GoodFunerals Charles Cowling Burmese ambassador killed his wife and built funeral pyre for the body on his lawn, claiming diplomatic immunity http://bit.ly/iaBlTK 7 Feb Favorite Reply Delete GoodFunerals Charles Cowling LM Funerals cashes its chips. Up for sale at £100 million. Dignity sniffing. Thunderbolt please, God, if you’re there http://bit.ly/hCL7cw […]
Afore ye go
If we live long enough, our dying will be punctuated by lasts which we may even be able to mark off, one by one — last time in the garden; last time I’ll see so-and-so. Even if we don’t mark off our lasts, our nearest and dearest probably will, retrospectively. Our most memorable last ought […]
